Adventures in Potty Training

My philosophy on potty training has always been to wait. We start by talking about it, buying underwear and then we set up a rewards system. After that we just wait for the child decide they are ready. With my two older children this worked beautifully. One morning they woke up and decided to wear underwear and after that we had very few accidents.

So when it came time to potty train Ethan, we took the same tactic. For all of you that do not know our third child, he tends to look at the world in a different way. He is always coming up with little comments that make us either fall down laughing or scratch our heads. So it should not surprise me that potty training would be a little different than the other kids.

As the summer came to a close his fourth birthday was coming quickly and Ethan still was showing no interest at all. Finally, last Saturday night he was in the bath and all of a sudden jumped up and told me he needed to go potty. He got out of the tub and he went to the bathroom. The next morning he woke up and decided he wanted to wear underwear. That day we had an accident free day and I felt we were off to a good start.

Monday when he woke up he wanted to wear underwear again and for a large part of the day we did pretty well. In the afternoon he went to his room to take a rest. After a little while he came out of his room and told me he “went poopy.” I assumed he had an accident but when he rounded the corner I realized he was holding the poop in his hand. After cleaning him up, I asked him why the poop was in his hand. He explained to me that he did not want to make his underwear dirty but he did not want to go to poopy on the potty. For whatever reason he decided that going to the bathroom in his hand was the only other alternative. It could be my brother in law’s fault because he is always teasing him about pooping in his pants. Unfortunately, we went through this process two more times before he was finished.

The next several days were a little hit and miss. Tuesday was an accident free day but on Wednesday and Thursday he had one accident when he was playing with his friends. I was hoping that Friday would be a better day.

As it turned out Friday was an accident free day. We even had success with going poopy on the potty. While our older son Aidan was at school he cut his eye with a piece of paper so I had to take him to the eye doctor. On the way to the appointment we stopped off at the grocery store. While there Ethan told me he had to go to the bathroom. Aidan waited outside with Oliver. After Ethan went to the bathroom we came out and Aidan was sitting on a bench a little ways down form the bathroom. Very loudly Ethan yelled, “Aidan I went poopy and it looked like baby Moses.” After laughing I asked him to explain. He told us that it looked like the picture from Sunday school because it was brown and floated.

The days that have followed have been good and I am looking forward to only buying diapers for one child. I am sure there will be more memorable stories before Ethan is completely potty trained.

First Day of School

Today Aidan and Isabel started school. Every year the beginning is a challenge to my faith that God is in control of everything, including my children.

Every year since Aidan began four years ago, I worry about what the year will hold. Did they get a good teacher, will they learn enough, did we make the right decision about the school to send them to are just a few worries that run through my mind.

I am constantly reminding myself that God is faithful despite all the circumstances in our lives. I do not have to be the perfect parent, they do not have to have the perfect teacher, etc. God is faithful despite our unfaithfulness.

Even as I pray for God to change my heart and trust in him my worry creeps in. My prayer for this school year is to rest in God and his faithfulness to me and to my children.

Time to blog

This school year my goal is to blog about the kids and life here at the Kennedy household. Hopefully it will help me remember the fun things the kids do everyday. They grow up so fast and I want it all written down somewhere.

I Was Outvoted on the Blue Merle, so it’s a Panda Puppy Instead (a.k.a., Black Tri)

The newborn Aussie pup that Pam and the kids picked out.  Code name: Panda.

The newborn Aussie pup that Pam and the kids picked out. Code name: Panda.

Wedding Band Blues

A few weeks ago I was out working in the yard and did what I normally do when working in the yard. I took off my wedding band and put it in my pocket. Then again, I could have taken it off and set it somewhere when I went to find some work gloves. Perhaps it even made it through the events of the day and I fiddled with it while reading, only to lose it in the couch? I am known to take my ring off at random times, including even in my sleep! At any rate, a few days later I realized that I did not have my ring. So over this past weekend we all once again searched outside, in the garage and even tore apart the bed. The only missing item we found was one of our four cordless phones (something we have been searching for longer than a year!). This excited the kids, despite that fact that the finders reward we offered was for the ring.

After having an odd exchange with a cashier at Home Depot, who not only commented that I was a frequent patron but also somehow brought up the fact that she was a single mom, I decided to take Pam’s advice and invest in a cheap “temporary” replacement. The funny thing is that a friend at church said her husband did the same thing 25 years ago and is still wearing it!

left to right - old and temporary
Left: Missing band by James Avery Craftsman. Right: Temporary Wal-Mart special.

What I ended up with was a $38 titanium wedding band from Wal-Mart. It is not the highest grade titanium — nor is it as elegant as gold or platinum — but it is light, strong and hypo-allergenic (though it will show scratches). Besides, the bicycle geek in me appreciates the metallurgy aspects of owning a titanium ring. And while you may have heard folks say that titanium rings are dangerous, according to Snopes.com you can cut a titanium ring off of an injured finger with the same saw that is used for gold rings; you just have to make two cuts instead of one because titanium does not bend as easily as softer metals.

So it came as no surprise to me at the jewelry store (where I went to get my ring finger resized) that I was told to stay away from anything other than gold or platinum…for safety reasons. This happened after I brought up another alternative metal — tungsten carbide — which is remarkably hard and scratch resistant (right below diamonds on the hardness scale), hypo-allergenic (when made w/o cobalt), has a similar weight/substance feeling as their softer counterparts, are available in traditional or exotic styles, come with inlays of precious metals (e.g., platinum, gold or silver) and can be laser engraved with some really neat patterns (see below). Sounds to me like the kind of ring I would not have to take off every time I did yard work! And while it cannot be cut with a jeweler’s saw, all it takes to remove a stuck ring is a few squeezes from vice grips and it cracks apart (though extremely strong and hard, tungsten carbide is weak torsionally). About the only major downside I can think of with tungsten carbide (and titanium), besides not coming in a solid yellow gold color, is that you cannot have them resized.


Examples of carved tungsten carbide rings (clockwise l-r) by ARTCARVED, Triton, DIANA and Triton.

I honestly do hope that my good ol’ wedding ring shows up. It holds a lot of sentimental value after nearly 14 years of marriage. Should it not, then perhaps one of the “new-metals” will find a place of permanence on my left ring finger (hopefully before 25 years pass)? And with gold prices at an all time high, alternatives are becoming attractive options based on price alone.